When you found out your spouse was cheating, were you obsessed with thoughts of revenge? Throwing all his clothes in a heap on the lawn…slashing his tires…or forwarding copies of his cyber sex sessions to his entire address book? Maybe your fantasies were more devious – perhaps they involved some Superglue and the bathroom throne. Or maybe that paste could attach a certain ‘member’ to the inside of his leg…
Well, for anyone who has experienced heart-break of infidelity, a new book called The Down and Dirty Dish On Revenge: Serving It Up Nice and Cold To That Lying,Cheating Bastard offers new insights into how people plan, carry out, and savour revenge on an ex.
Let’s clarify something right away: this is NOT a “how-to guide” on revenge tactics – though it does include some outlandish revange stories by real people (and famous personalities). Instead, author Eva Nagorski not only dives into the history of adultery and revenge, she examines the psychology/genetics of people who desire retribution. She provides experts’ commentary on both the merits and dangers of revenge. And she also explores how people can ‘keep a lid’ on their vengeful feelings and move on.
Written in the tone of a chick-lit novel, The Down and Dirty Dish Revenge was inspired by Nagorski’s wildly popular blog, That Girl Emily. In this blog, Nagorski took on the psyche of Emily, a 35-year-old fictitious suburban housewife, who found out her husband was cheating. So ‘Emily’ exacted 14 days of purchased billboards in Times Square that announced that he was not exactly “well-endowed”; drove his desecrated car through the streets of Manhattan; and had the famous Katz’s deli in New York City make a sandwich in Steven’s name–“The Cheatin’ Steven.”
Again, ‘Emily’ was a fictitious character; Nagorski was actually hired to write this blog as part of an advertising campaign for Court TV’s, Parco P.I.. But Nagorski says her character resonated with so many readers – and so quickly – that she felt compelled to ‘stake-out” the world of revenge more closely. She says she hopes her book will help lift the veil of shame people have for their angry, vengeful thoughts. Cause most people have them; but whether or not they act on them and how far they’ll take them, are other matters entirely.
What do you think of Nagorski’s concept? Too sensational, borderline insane? Too much focus on men being cheaters instead of all the female perpetrators? Might the best revenge be just to be caught reading this book in public?